How To Keep Marital Relationships Going?

Every relationship has its own up and down and keeping it alive is a constant struggle of a lifetime. Sharing the following elements that help us make it through the rain..
1.)Preserve the Trust
Trust is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion. Suspicion generates anger. Anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
2.) Don't point fingers at each other
"Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive others, others will ignore our mistakes too.
3.) Try to create perfect relationships
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf to the courting stage and dream of a perpetual perfect union. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. When the going gets tough, don't quit and resolve never to give up on each other.
4.)Don't try to Overpower each other
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all, and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Oftentimes, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." It is not easy to change. Thus, having the high expectations on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations and accept our spouses as they are. Just endeavor to work as a team, i.e. to be partners in love and in life,  through thick or thin.
5.)Be careful with your words
From a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong words. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party. The same holds true in dealing with our friends.
6.)Respect personal perception
Don't be bothered by what others say, do what you think and feel is right, because you can never please everybody.
7.) Be patient always
Patience is a virtue. Think first before you lose your patience with someone important to you. Things can be repaired and replaced, but hurt feelings can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance, and we forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. However, the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
8.) Always believe in the power of prayers.
The greatest weapon known to humanity is when you bend your knees and bow your head and surrender to the man above. 
This may not effectively work for you, the way it did to me but what matters  most is the choice to keep it, fight for it and to work for it, so that our relationships will be an astounding success as couples and with our friends.