August 11, 2013

Thoughts on Relationships

Whether we admit it or not, at one point in our married life, we asked ourselves  are we with the right partner? Then we wonder " How do I know if  I am with the right person?"

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; we fall in love with our partner. we anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and a spontaneous process. We didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love. 
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, it  drive us nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; we will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when we were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, we and or our partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as  we reflect on the euphoria of the love we once had, we  may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not in  finding the right person; it's learning to love the person we found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. We have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM.  We have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work and make no mistake about it. God determines who walks into our life. It is up to us to decide who, to let walk away, who will stay, and refuse to let GO!
Love is  a "decision" and the best part of loving is not in wishing that the person loves us back as much as we do. It is in realizing that we  the person far more than we thought we could."  :)

February 15, 2013

The Last

It's Valentines day once again, a perfect time  to profess our love to the most important people in our life. For those in ....savor d moment and enjoy the present...for those out of ...learn the lessons of the past, but keep the spirits high...believe and pray to meet ur one true ...for those on thankful for the technology and the gift of TIME more than roses and chocolates.....for the hopeless romantics...Have fun watching the story: The Last

February 11, 2013

Seasons of Life

How to live life is always a daunting choice. In each season or phases, experience either break or make us a better person. The people we meet and our attitude towards the circumstances that besets us matter on how we approach every situation but, in the end it is the lessons learned from our decisions that truly matters.

February 10, 2013

Thank You

A picture fades, but the memories remain. It is a treasure that cannot be more appreciated than with Time. I'm grateful; that the years have not taken that much of its toll in me. Thank you Lord for the gift of LIFE and LIVING!!! Thank you dear relatives and friends for being there through thick and thin. Most of all, thanks for the LOVE and CARE Sir Captain! xoxo

January 18, 2013

When Tomorrow never comes

As we go through life, familiarity can sometimes seem like permanence. Oftentimes, the more comfortable we are with someone, the less effort we put into our time with them.
It was seven months ago, when we learnt that my brother in law was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer with metastasis to the lungs and liver. We had the chance to visit him last November 2012, after his 6th chemo session. We thought he was doing well with the treatment, because he was looking good and eating well. A month later, the bad news came of his deteriorating state and eventual passing. In that transient state between there and there, I’ve learned a lot about what it really means to be here—to recognize that everything changes and appreciate it all while it lasts. Moments are really so fleeting.
The reality is that nothing permanent in this  life, each moment is a gift so spend it well. Occasionally, we may take each other for granted but every moment we have together is valuable. Whether or not it feels that way is entirely up to us.
“Before someone’s tomorrow has been taken away, cherish those you love, appreciate them today.” -Michelle C. Ustaszeski
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