Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; we fall in love with our partner. we anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and a spontaneous process. We didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, it drive us nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; we will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when we were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, we and or our partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as we reflect on the euphoria of the love we once had, we may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not in finding the right person; it's learning to love the person we found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. We have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. We have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work and make no mistake about it. God determines who walks into our life. It is up to us to decide who, to let walk away, who will stay, and refuse to let GO!
Love is a "decision" and the best part of loving is not in wishing that the person loves us back as much as we do. It is in realizing that we the person far more than we thought we could." :)
